Well, here I am on the last day of my week away from work...and finally am feeling on holiday!!!
I've been in a bit of a fog this last week - with a few old habits taking over.
But today I'm feeling light and free and have a smile on my face.
But rather than write about it, I thought I'd talk about it...so here it is, my first video blog...hope you enjoy it!!
I'm a bit of a novice at this, and when I first tried to upload it to YouTube, the sound was right, but the movement was at chipmunk speed!!!
Yes it looked funny, but I thought it was best to have it all in sync!!!
I've learnt something new today!!!
Showing posts with label habit. Show all posts
Showing posts with label habit. Show all posts
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Quack, quack, quack...
Another old habit of mine that's been coming to the surface of late is what I like to call my 'ducks in a row' syndrome.
I have a tendency to want all of my ducks standing to attetnion nicely before I start something new...part a) of which is I want to know where I'll end up before kicking off!
To all of you 'fly by the seat of your panters', you'll be thinking where's the fun in that!
And I agree - often it can shut me down and make me take longer to get started on something, because I can't see what all the steps will be, or if I'll end up where I want to.
I guess it's a bit of a fear thing...of failure or success I'm not really sure.
The funny thing is, I'm actually quite good at living in the moment and just taking life as it comes.
Take last weekend for example. I spent the best part of 3 days with Ben traipsing around Sydney. And not once did I really know where I was, or what was happening next.
And I loved it!
I'm so used to being the navigator or the organiser (which is part is probably because I like being in control!), so the best thing was not having the foggiest where I was.
The other way my line of quackers manifests...needing to have enough time to finish something in full before I start it. Rather than chip away at it.
It's an interesting thing really and I'm not really sure why I do it. It causes me to put some things off for agres and in general get behind.
Again, I'm sure it's got something to do with the fear of failure/success. Oh and how could I forget perfectionism. Me and the big P - we go way back!
But again, the antidote is planning.
I'm great at keeping multiple things rolling along when I've got a plan written down. And when I've broken a big task into smaller ones.
Try and keep it all in my head and I come unglued.
I think I attempt to do it all in my head because it works for other people and therefore I 'should' be able to do that to. (Did I mention the word perfectionism, and therefore having unreachable standards for myself at times!)
And there inlies the problem. I'm not everyone else, and as Mum would rightly point out to me many times as a kid or teenager 'if your friends were going to jump off a bridge, would you?'
No. So then why do I persist in using a method that works for others and not me?!
I like planning. I like being organised. I like knowing where I'm headed. In fact I love it.
I'm the geek at work who loves the project plans complete with a gannt chart because I respond so well to anything that's visual.
And I work best when I use my magical project plans.
So the lesson for me?
Well I think there's 2 good ones here.
First is a new favourite quote from Denise Linn - it doesn't have to be done perfectly, it just has to be done. And be willing to do it badly.
And 2 - do what works best for this little black duck.
I have a tendency to want all of my ducks standing to attetnion nicely before I start something new...part a) of which is I want to know where I'll end up before kicking off!
To all of you 'fly by the seat of your panters', you'll be thinking where's the fun in that!
And I agree - often it can shut me down and make me take longer to get started on something, because I can't see what all the steps will be, or if I'll end up where I want to.
I guess it's a bit of a fear thing...of failure or success I'm not really sure.
The funny thing is, I'm actually quite good at living in the moment and just taking life as it comes.
Take last weekend for example. I spent the best part of 3 days with Ben traipsing around Sydney. And not once did I really know where I was, or what was happening next.
And I loved it!
I'm so used to being the navigator or the organiser (which is part is probably because I like being in control!), so the best thing was not having the foggiest where I was.
The other way my line of quackers manifests...needing to have enough time to finish something in full before I start it. Rather than chip away at it.
It's an interesting thing really and I'm not really sure why I do it. It causes me to put some things off for agres and in general get behind.
Again, I'm sure it's got something to do with the fear of failure/success. Oh and how could I forget perfectionism. Me and the big P - we go way back!
But again, the antidote is planning.
I'm great at keeping multiple things rolling along when I've got a plan written down. And when I've broken a big task into smaller ones.
Try and keep it all in my head and I come unglued.
I think I attempt to do it all in my head because it works for other people and therefore I 'should' be able to do that to. (Did I mention the word perfectionism, and therefore having unreachable standards for myself at times!)
And there inlies the problem. I'm not everyone else, and as Mum would rightly point out to me many times as a kid or teenager 'if your friends were going to jump off a bridge, would you?'
No. So then why do I persist in using a method that works for others and not me?!
I like planning. I like being organised. I like knowing where I'm headed. In fact I love it.
I'm the geek at work who loves the project plans complete with a gannt chart because I respond so well to anything that's visual.
And I work best when I use my magical project plans.
So the lesson for me?
Well I think there's 2 good ones here.
First is a new favourite quote from Denise Linn - it doesn't have to be done perfectly, it just has to be done. And be willing to do it badly.
And 2 - do what works best for this little black duck.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Proof that old habits die easy!
I accomplished something truly amazing tonight...drum roll please...
I did the dishes while making tea AND washed our plates up straight after so there's not one dish left to do!!!
Now this may not seem momentous enough to write a blog post about...in fact most of you are sitting back going 'ah, that's what we do every day.'!!!
But for those who have known us since we moved out - you'll realise that's a fairly spectacular effort really!
Here's the framed tea towel we have hanging above our sink - partly as an ode to our to the kitchen in our first flat which got to this exact state by each Saturday and also as a reminder not to get back to that!
We've definitely gotten better over the years, but there's still been many an occasion when the poor dishes were left to their own devices while Nathan & I secretly hoped that the other would tackle them.
Funny really, because I'm always happy to do other people's dishes, just didn't used to jump at the chance to do our own!
Anywho, Nathan & I decided a month or two ago that we were sick of our slightly slovenly ways, and decided to do something about it across all areas of the house.
And just quietly, we're doing a great job! Bit by bit we're actually becoming proper grown-ups and keeping our house tidy on a full-time basis!
So the moral of the story is that you can change old habits, and contrary to popular belief - they can and quite often do die easily!
It doesn't matter how long you've had them for because all a habit or belief is, is just a thought you've chosen to think over and over (a lot of the time subconciously).
So all you need to do is pick a new thought that makes you feel better, or supports your life moreso and practice, practice, practice - in thought and deed!
The trick is not to berate yourself while you're learning your new way of being...as good old Louise Hay says, it's just like planting a seed.
You don't jump up and down on it when it's just a little seedling, you watch with excitement as it turns into a fully fledged plant!
Or to put it another way - treat it like learning any new skill...who ever tells a bub that they're not good enough if they only manage to crawl a centimetre the first time, or take one wobbly step before falling back down on their bum.
Nope - all you do is encourage and tell them to get back up and give it another crack.
And you keep encouraging them until they're off and running...then wonder whey you wanted them to walk.
Ha - kidding!
Anyway, remember to keep encouraging yourself when you decide to change an old habit or learn something new - you can do it!
I did the dishes while making tea AND washed our plates up straight after so there's not one dish left to do!!!
Now this may not seem momentous enough to write a blog post about...in fact most of you are sitting back going 'ah, that's what we do every day.'!!!
But for those who have known us since we moved out - you'll realise that's a fairly spectacular effort really!
Here's the framed tea towel we have hanging above our sink - partly as an ode to our to the kitchen in our first flat which got to this exact state by each Saturday and also as a reminder not to get back to that!
We've definitely gotten better over the years, but there's still been many an occasion when the poor dishes were left to their own devices while Nathan & I secretly hoped that the other would tackle them.
Funny really, because I'm always happy to do other people's dishes, just didn't used to jump at the chance to do our own!
Anywho, Nathan & I decided a month or two ago that we were sick of our slightly slovenly ways, and decided to do something about it across all areas of the house.
And just quietly, we're doing a great job! Bit by bit we're actually becoming proper grown-ups and keeping our house tidy on a full-time basis!
So the moral of the story is that you can change old habits, and contrary to popular belief - they can and quite often do die easily!
It doesn't matter how long you've had them for because all a habit or belief is, is just a thought you've chosen to think over and over (a lot of the time subconciously).
So all you need to do is pick a new thought that makes you feel better, or supports your life moreso and practice, practice, practice - in thought and deed!
The trick is not to berate yourself while you're learning your new way of being...as good old Louise Hay says, it's just like planting a seed.
You don't jump up and down on it when it's just a little seedling, you watch with excitement as it turns into a fully fledged plant!
Or to put it another way - treat it like learning any new skill...who ever tells a bub that they're not good enough if they only manage to crawl a centimetre the first time, or take one wobbly step before falling back down on their bum.
Nope - all you do is encourage and tell them to get back up and give it another crack.
And you keep encouraging them until they're off and running...then wonder whey you wanted them to walk.
Ha - kidding!
Anyway, remember to keep encouraging yourself when you decide to change an old habit or learn something new - you can do it!
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